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Sex Blogging, Nigerian Culture and Dirty Emails: The Dame Valuta Exposé

Dame Vatula.
Married with one daughter, professional scriptwriter and ex-choir mistress Victoria Aluta is the Nigerian Web's resident sex blogger. In defiance of the 'Don't ask, don't tell' stance of most local Nigerian cultures on sex, Victoria has been publishing fiction with a decidedly erotic bent on the Internet since 2012 under the pseudonym Dame Valutaa. Her blog, Dames Caucus, is a repertoire of original, surprisingly mentally-stimulating stories of varying degrees of lewdness that shoot holes in the clichéd concept of sex blogs and keep her almost 3,000 Twitter followers entertained every week.
In this interview with Ore Fakorede, the Dame touches on the economics of sex blogging, weird fan mail and premarital sex.
Ore Fakorede: What led you into sex blogging, did you have an experience that you felt had to be shared with the world?
Dame Valuta: I started out blogging ordinary stories. My first two blog posts proves that. But my third blog post, UNBRIDLED, was what opened the doors of erotica. It had a few sex scenes in it and the response to that particular story was overwhelming. I showed my husband the number of views I got and he simply said, "Sex sells and you're good at writing it." I think that's where the bright idea came from. As for sharing my experience with the world, hmmm, I'm not that much of an attention seeker.
OF: How long have you run a sex blog for? Is it a profitable venture?
DV: I've run my blog for a year. I started blogging in March 2012. It is not profitable, not yet at least.
OF: What makes your brand of erotica different from all the others on the Nigerian Web?
DV: My brand of erotica is different because I tell a story that everyone can relate to, in a lingo that everyone can understand and I kinda throw sex in the mix just to jazz it up. And the response has been truly encouraging. I don't compare my “brand of erotica” as you call it, to others. I'm far too lazy to make comparisons. I allow my readers do that.
OF: Would you say that sex blogging has exposed you to more sexual advances? Could you share some of those experiences?
DV: Yes, definitely. It has. I get the weirdest proposals and fan mails from both guys and girls alike. But guys rule the equation. I've been sent photos of penises via email, with promises of awesome, mind-blowing sex. I've had request for orgies. It's just absolutely crazy!
OF: You must care about protecting your real identity online. How do you do it?
DV: Neeeeh. I don't protect my identity online. I spell out my full names on Twitter a lot. My Facebook profile page carries my real names. I'm lousy at protecting my identity. I've got too much coonery in me. I can't thrive as a 'catfish'.
OF: I've read some of your stories. I mean, I had to. Would you ever consider writing scripts for erotic films?
DV: If the pay is good, why not? I write better when money is involved.
OF: What sex blogs do you consider your competition?
DV: Sadly, I don't read a lot of sex blogs, Nigerian or foreign. I can't make any comparison.
OF: What’s your take on sharing erotica on social media such as Twitter and Facebook?
DV: It has a wider reach and can get your stories to a lot more people. It also has its downside though. With the influx of teenagers into social media, it can get into the wrong smartphone or computer. Personally, I stopped sharing erotica on Facebook because I've got more youngins following me there than on Twitter.
OF: Most local Nigerian cultures do not endorse sex out of marriage, but your blog rips that stance apart. Are you comfortable with the concept of premarital sex?
DV: Now, this is my personal opinion. Yes indeed. I am comfortable with premarital sex. I didn't say I endorse it and I'm not saying everyone should indulge in it. All I'm saying is, I am comfortable with it. If you can abstain till you get married, awesome. I'm gonna be your biggest cheerleader. If you indulge in premarital sex, fine! I'm won't judge you as long as you use protection. I'm guessing there are a lot more people waiting to judge those who indulge in premarital sex. Dame doesn't have to join the fray. I'm a live and let live advocate. As for the Nigerian culture, we all know its 90% hypocritical. But hey, I don't live by any set traditional rules so.... *shrugs*
OF: Would you say that your sex blog ‘empowers’ young Nigerian women to be better lovers? That makes it inspirational, right?
DV: I don't know about 'empowering' in the real sense of the word, but I do know it has made more couples open up to themselves sexually, if the number of emails I get are anything to go by. My blog isn't inspirational though. I tend to look at it as literary lubricant, if there's a term like that.