A magazine for Africans and friends of Africa...Our Voices, Our Vision, Our Culture

By M. Skye Holly
Maybe something has been missing at Sunday brunch and I don't mean the eggs benedict. While many women love to get together with their girlfriends to swap stories of their man dilemmas, we may have forgotten one thing altogether-the viewpoint of the man himself. 
In the New York Times bestseller, comedian and entertainer Steve Harvey dishes the dirt from where he thinks it should count as he encourages women to "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man." Harvey insists that men are simple creatures and is willing to give sisters out there an edge, in figuring out how they tend complicate in relationships. Instead of going to your girlfriends, Harvey comes to you. But can a man really help a woman, well, be a woman?
You may think that all you needed to learn about womanhood came from your mama and your aunties, but Harvey’s pages of self-help are there to show you that if you only rely on their old wives’ tales that you just might end up by yourself. 
One such example pops out when he gives a mock dialogue between a woman and her girlfriend and a woman and her man. He comically stresses what he sees as the truth of the difference between the ways that men and women communicate.  If you ever wondered if the man you love pays attention to you when you talk, you will finally get an understanding of what he’s actually hearing when you speak.
Assuming that his readers are after one thing, finding the man who will “put a ring on it,” Harvey tells from his own experience, as well as from his acquaintances, just what men value and what will get them to the altar. He also tells you a few things you may not want to hear, like how you can know if the man you are with will never get that far with you and is just sticking around for a good time because YOU’VE let HIM feel like he’s got it like that.
I admit that there are many thinks in this book to be taken with a grain of salt. I don’t think that Steve Harvey speaks for every man on the planet even though he insists that most men think in the ways he describes. It may seem like he is making a whole lot of generalizations. Still, I have come to find that in the midst of his many generalizations or stereotypes, a speck of truth can be buried within. I will also admit that there are some of Harvey’s rules that I wouldn’t live by. 
Overall though, I still recommend “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man” as something worthy of your summer reading list. Especially if the chats with your girlfriends just aren’t cutting it anymore. And coming from a man who loves his mama but is not a mama's boy (and he notes there is a big difference), this just might be the fresh perspective you need.